I can now say with 100% certainty that I believe in the Law of Attraction. Too much crazy shit has happened in recent times for me to think anything otherwise!! But I’ve found that it can be difficult to have faith in it, particularly when thing aren’t going so well. When that happens, I like to remind myself of things that make me realise ANYTHING is possible because we live in a world full of mysteries, miracles and mind boggling wonders that the human mind can barely comprehend!
Here’s a list of 10 things on this planet (and beyond!) that even after millennia of human existence, we STILL haven’t got the foggiest idea what it fully means or what is there. If that’s the case, then why the hell can’t the law of attraction be real?
When I first began this journey down the rabbit hole of enlightenment, the vast majority of people I was learning from were American (or Canadian). Most of them were middle aged or older. Whilst I didn’t have an issue with this (and age means nothing to me, even more so 18 months into this journey) during those first 6 months or so, I was in a constant battle to keep faith in what I was learning.
When you are a young, mixed-race male from a working-class family in England, with no prior experience or belief in anything spiritual, it’s kind of difficult to instantly buy into things like the law of attraction or anything that can’t be experienced with the 5 senses. So it helps at least in the beginning, to have one or two people who you can relate more easily to. Ralph Smart helped enormously with that, but it was another guy who REALLY resonated with me more than anyone else; ex-con, football hooligan and drug addict, turned yoga and transformational coach, Brett Moran!
The second of my regular video updates on how things are going as I aim to create my dream life using the law of attraction and other methods of self development. This week, I’ve come right back to Earth with a big fecking BANG!!
I’ve spoken with many people who have suffered with anxiety and depression and have come to the conclusion that actually, many of them don’t want to overcome it. I know this is a controversial thing to say but I also know that this phenomenon of not wanting to rid yourself of the pain or negativity in your life, despite the fact it’s the cause of most of your problems, is a recognised one in psychology. Eckhart Tolle speaks of this in The Power of Now:
“….you may encounter intense inner resistance to dis-identifying from your pain. This will be the case particularly if you have lived closely identified with your emotional pain….for most of your life and the whole or a large part of your sense of self is invested in it. What this means is that you have made an unhappy self out of your pain…. and believe that this mind-made fiction is who you are. In that case, unconscious fear of losing your identity will create strong resistance to any dis-identification.
In other words, you would rather be in pain……..than take a leap into the unknown and risk losing the familiar unhappy self. If this applies to you, observe the resistance within yourself. Observe the attachment to your pain. Be very alert. Observe the peculiar pleasure you derive from being unhappy. Observe the compulsion to talk or think about it. The resistance will cease if you make it conscious.”
Let’s get one thing straight; just because I talk about spirituality, doesn’t mean I’m religious! Far from it. In fact, I’m dead against organised religion of any sort. Big institutions are not needed in order for people to follow the basic and profound teachings which underpin all religions. Besides, these organisations have caused as much pain as they have helped, through wars in their name, corruption and the controlling of society through needless, harsh rules.
But the basic principles of the major religions are actually very similar. The men who these religions were born from (Christ, Krishna, Buddha, Mohammed) were all trying to teach the same message; to be kind to one another and to realise that we have the power within us to do whatever our heart desires. These gurus weren’t attempting to set up a religion! Other people decided on that. And all this bullshit about heaven, a cushy afterlife that we have to somehow suffer for now in order to attain once we die – what a waste of time! A waste of life.
The first in a weekly series of video updates where I talk about what’s going on in my life as I attempt to create the life of my dreams using the law of attraction and other related self development techniques. This week, I’m as a high as a crack smoking giraffe on a bungee jump!!
Today, as I write, is World Suicide Prevention Day. There seems to be a special #day for everything these days but if there’s one subject that truly deserves to be highlighted for its own 24 hours, it is this one.
Samaritans Suicide Statistics Report 2017
6,188 suicides were registered in the UK
The highest suicide rate in the UK was for men aged 40–44
Rates have increased in the UK (by 3.8%) since 2014
In the UK, female suicide rates are at their highest in a decade.
Male rates remain consistently higher than female suicide rates – around 3 times higher
Less than 5 years ago, I was very close to becoming just another number on those statistics. As it is Suicide Prevention Day, I feel it is my duty to speak out for the very first time in life, about how I managed to stay alive.
Perhaps the biggest limiting belief I had that needed to be crushed before I could even think about getting the life of my dreams, was my negative attitude towards money. I began to realise that my thoughts and subsequent actions revolving around those bits of paper and metal, were seriously holding me back. It took a few months of work, analysing and deconstructing thoughts that had lived with me since I was a child and replacing them with positive ones but I eventually got to the stage where I viewed money in a totally new light. If only I’d read “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” back then! Because this book not only will destroy any negative limiting beliefs on the subject, it also tells you exactly how to get hold of the stuff and make it work for you. This is practical, actionable stuff – not just law of attraction visualisations and affirmations.
For the past year, I have been regularly visualising to materialise. But I don’t think it’s till recently that I have truly understood what I need to do. That it’s the HEART that is the key to everything. I also never had 100% faith in the law of attraction. I always had a nagging doubt. But now, I am 100% certain it’s real. That’s partly because I’ve seen it in action for myself, bringing me people and circumstances which are changing my life. But also, I’ve learned a few new things which have helped cement it in place. So now, my old visualisations seem, well, a bit tame to be honest! I have no doubt whatsoever that those dreams will come true. That’s because now, they aren’t big enough for me.
OK it’s time to finally come clean! I’ve been hiding the truth from you. Being a bit coy with what’s going on in my life. You see, until recently, there was still a part of me that was scared. Worried that all the good things which had started to manifest in my life, were going to be whipped away from me, like a tablecloth in a magician’s trick. I started to get uncomfortable, panicky feelings that my future was out of my control and that one change of heart from one individual could bring my hopes crashing to the bottom of a canyon. Because of this, I haven’t dared write about the specifics of what is happening in my life. I also risked feeling like a complete fool if I told you all this exciting news only to have to report that none of it was actually happening. But I’ve had a paradigm shift lately.