I’ve been celibate for almost 2 years. Now I know what you’re thinking;
“You aren’t actually celibate Tim, you just haven’t pulled in ages!”
Well, I’ll admit, it wasn’t a choice at first! I had been single for much longer than 2 years but for a long time, my focus had been on getting a girlfriend way too much.
It got to the point, around the time of my awakening, that I started to think I should actually stop even trying to meet someone. After all, it had only caused me stress and frustration for most of my life. I realised that if I could put all the energy I spent trying to meet women into something more productive, I would improve my life much quicker.
Part of the problem was that I had spent most of my life trying to get women to like me. Trying to get a girlfriend. And failing miserably! I’ve only had one serious relationship and even that didn’t last long. Anxiety was a key factor in that but I can’t put the blame entirely there.
There came a point where I did actually say to myself;
“Tim, you are going to remain single for the forseeable future. You are not going to date. You are not spending any more time on dating sites. You do not need or indeed, want, a girlfriend in your life right now.”
The more I go down this journey of awakening, questioning our world, our reality, the more I realise how messed up it is. We, especially in Western society, have got so much completely backwards. Healthcare is the best example of this.
I’m the kind of man who likes to keep things simple. Us humans always try to over-complicate things. We have a natural tendency to look too deeply for answers, because we think that if the solution sounds too simple, it can’t work – it can’t be true. What I’ve learnt in recent times, is that our health boils down to 2 basic things:
What we put into our body
What we put into our mind
Feed your mind with negative thoughts or your mouth with unnatural products, and you become ill.
If you had told me at the beginning of 2017 that I would become friends with two people in the public eye who I admire immensely, that I would be offered a chance to live and work on a tropical island, that I would have my own blog with hundreds of subscribers, and that I would be involved in an opportunity that could set me up financially for life, I would have asked what drugs you were taking! Little did I realise the surprises that awaited me in 2017!
In my 3 Part series earlier this year, I wrote about my first ever experience of getting my fortune read by a psychic. If you’d told me even 1 year beforehand that I would be going to a seer, I would have had the men in white coats around faster than you could say “BULLSHIT!!”. But following my year of awakening, I now felt that ANYTHING was possible.
So I thought I’d give it a try. Partly for fun. Partly because I was in a tough place. After a full year of endless, daily self-development work, massive highs, soul-destroying lows, I emerged as a totally new Tim inside – but my outer world had not budged. Still skint. Still lonely. Still unhappy.
If I was to give one book to all the people in the world who want to make big changes in their life, this would be it. Not because it’s the best self-development book I’ve read.“Think and Grow Rich”remains the granddaddy for me (in fact, it is even mentioned in THIS book!). Not because it’s had the biggest impact on my life; “The Power of Now” and “Conversations With God” both switched on lightbulbs within me that this one never did. The reason I would choose it is because out of all those books, this is the easiest to digest. Read more →
I thought I would share this beautiful song with you as the lyrics could not be more relevant to everything this blog is about. The weird thing is, it’s by Massive Attack, who are my favourite music producers and I’ve had this track for years but never took much notice of the lyrics till last year.
I suddenly realised what was being said and fully understood it for the first time – which shows how much more aware you become once you go deeper into this journey of self development. Similar to reading “Think and Grow Rich”, which the first time around, I was not aware enough to fully understand.
I ended up playing it every morning for 6 months and it really helped me during a tough period. It reminded me what I needed to do to stay on the right path towards creating the life I desired. I hope it might do the same for you.
I’ve pasted the lyrics below and analysed them, so you fully understand. Do as they say and there’s no doubt in my mind, you have a blueprint for success.
I was initially reluctant to get this book due to the word “god”. The fact I have not written god with a capital G tells you all you need to know about my feelings towards it! I have never believed in god since I became an adult, have been an atheist most of the proceeding time and now………..well, let’s just say books like Conversations With God are making me re-think that! But it doesn’t matter if you are agnostic, atheist or religious, this book is a must-read. But be warned; no matter what your belief, you are about to have it severely challenged!
I can now say with 100% certainty that I believe in the Law of Attraction. Too much crazy shit has happened in recent times for me to think anything otherwise!! But I’ve found that it can be difficult to have faith in it, particularly when thing aren’t going so well. When that happens, I like to remind myself of things that make me realise ANYTHING is possible because we live in a world full of mysteries, miracles and mind boggling wonders that the human mind can barely comprehend!
Here’s a list of 10 things on this planet (and beyond!) that even after millennia of human existence, we STILL haven’t got the foggiest idea what it fully means or what is there. If that’s the case, then why the hell can’t the law of attraction be real?
When I first began this journey down the rabbit hole of enlightenment, the vast majority of people I was learning from were American (or Canadian). Most of them were middle aged or older. Whilst I didn’t have an issue with this (and age means nothing to me, even more so 18 months into this journey) during those first 6 months or so, I was in a constant battle to keep faith in what I was learning.
When you are a young, mixed-race male from a working-class family in England, with no prior experience or belief in anything spiritual, it’s kind of difficult to instantly buy into things like the law of attraction or anything that can’t be experienced with the 5 senses. So it helps at least in the beginning, to have one or two people who you can relate more easily to. Ralph Smart helped enormously with that, but it was another guy who REALLY resonated with me more than anyone else; ex-con, football hooligan and drug addict, turned yoga and transformational coach, Brett Moran!
Let’s get one thing straight; just because I talk about spirituality, doesn’t mean I’m religious! Far from it. In fact, I’m dead against organised religion of any sort. Big institutions are not needed in order for people to follow the basic and profound teachings which underpin all religions. Besides, these organisations have caused as much pain as they have helped, through wars in their name, corruption and the controlling of society through needless, harsh rules.
But the basic principles of the major religions are actually very similar. The men who these religions were born from (Christ, Krishna, Buddha, Mohammed) were all trying to teach the same message; to be kind to one another and to realise that we have the power within us to do whatever our heart desires. These gurus weren’t attempting to set up a religion! Other people decided on that. And all this bullshit about heaven, a cushy afterlife that we have to somehow suffer for now in order to attain once we die – what a waste of time! A waste of life.