I keep hearing from people that they can’t help what they are thinking. That it’s not their fault they can’t be in a happy place. That they can’t just choose to be positive. But is any of that true? Can we choose our thoughts? Speaking as someone who had anxiety and overcame anxiety I feel I’m in a reasonable position to make an unbiased judgement. My initial opinion would be that no, we can’t choose our thoughts. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t choose to be positive. It doesn’t mean you can’t choose to at least try to move towards being happier. Let me explain!
Here’s what you need to understand about getting what you want using the law of attraction. It’s not about whether it MIGHT happen. It’s not about whether it COULD happen. It’s not even about whether it WILL happen. You have to act as though it HAS happened! The only way to do this is to FAKE it. Remember; your subconscious mind (which controls 95-99% of what you do) can’t distinguish between a lie and the truth. It’s totally unbiased – it takes everything as fact. So when you focus on debt and illness and worry, that’s reinforcing this reality to your subconscious mind, whether you have those problems or not. When you visualise yourself surrounded by abundance, that’s what your subconscious sees as the NOW, real-time, the truth.
We live in an age where it’s never been easier to make money, become successful and do whatever we want with our lives. Most of you reading this will be living in a democratic (roughly), developed nation with freedom for its citizens and access to the internet and so there is no excuse for not being able to attain what you desire. If you read that and thought:
“You can’t say that, you don’t know me, you don’t know my circumstances, you don’t know how hard that is for me!”
then I urge you to watch the film “The Pursuit of Happyness” starring Will Smith.
Here’s the key thing I want people to take away from these three blog posts; it actually doesn’t matter what anxiety or depression is. All that matters is that you feel like shit and it’s wrecking your life. But the more you focus on labelling yourself as ill, sick, anxious, depressed, weak etc, the more you will continue to feel that way. That’s because you are building up the habit of negative thinking. Now this IS scientifically proven!
Did you know there is actually no concrete proof anxiety or depression are caused by a chemical imbalance? Or that it’s a genetic disorder? Well you should do! But for some reason, they’ve become things that people trot out as fact. I’m not going to spend ages referring to the proof for this as it would take up too much blog space – do the research and you’ll see (check out the resources at the bottom of the page too).
Did you know that the third highest cause of death in the United States is iatrogenic (behind only cancer and heart disease)? If you’re thinking “What the hell are you on about Tim?!,” you’d be well within your rights, as it’s not something that’s well known. But it should be. Iatrogenic death is one caused by medical treatment. In other words, DEATH BY DOCTOR! Pretty shocking, right?
This is going to be my most controversial post so far! Perhaps the biggest aspect to overcoming anxiety (and depression) is awareness. Awareness comes from education. Once you understand what anxiety and depression actually are, you can then start to make the steps towards eradicating it. And let me be very clear; they CAN be eradicated!! Unfortunately, there are a lot of myths and very bad information knocking around, much of which has become “common knowledge”. This is one of the reasons anxiety and depression is getting WORSE in society. When myths such as “It’s a disease” and “a chemical imbalance” or “a genetic disorder” are now spoken as fact, it’s little wonder so many continue to struggle. They are not facts.
Another video blog for you today and this time I talk about awareness and why it is THE key ingredient to defeating anxiety (and changing your life in general). And never forget – anxiety CAN be defeated!
I knew this day would come. I couldn’t start a blog about anxiety without discussing what caused it. Although it’s been 5 years since it happened, I’ve still only ever talked to one person about it. That was a therapist and then, it was reluctantly. Now, I’m going to open up about what happened and how it affected me for the first time – and to the whole WORLD!!
I guess the only reason I can do this now is because mentally, I’m in a good place. I’m not gonna lie, I don’t forgive my attacker and probably never will. Many people will say that I need to forgive in order to fully move on. Maybe that’s true. Part of me actually would love nothing more than to get in a room with this guy and face him one to one in a fair, fully-clothed battle. Let’s see how he fares then. Right now, I don’t want to forgive. The only forgiving I really needed to do to move on, was with myself.
When I tell people that I used to be so anxious I barely left the house, struggled to speak, hated myself and was constantly paranoid about what total strangers were thinking about me, every single person is shocked. That’s because today, people see me as outgoing, outspoken, sociable and unafraid to do whatever I want. When I tell them that it took me just 1 hour of hypnotherapy to change to the way I am today, they can’t believe it! Neither could I, to be fair! But it’s the 100%, cast-iron truth. My mission is to get other people to understand that there are ways to completely eradicate social and generalised anxiety that they may not even have considered, or thought that there was no way they could work. So here is my hypnotherapy story.