Why Donald Trump CANNOT hurt you!

Why Donald Trump CANNOT hurt you!

Don’t worry, this post is NOT about politics! Not at its heart, anyway. And yes, the way things are going, he may well be the cause of a nuclear war with North Korea which will hurt pretty much everyone on the planet! However, when it comes to our every day lives, there is very little that Trump and his incompetent administration can actually do to you – if you understand that you already have the power to get what you want.

You can say that these are strange times in which we are living but in my opinion, there has never been anything but strange times! The whole world has been messed up for a very long time, certainly since humans have had the ability to record history, going back 5,000 years and who knows beyond that. It would be nice to think there was a time when the human race lived in complete utopia (and some believe there was) but to think that this was any time in living memory or in recorded history, is a total fallacy.

It’s incredible to think that in all recorded human history, there have been, from one account I read, less than 300 of those years where there was no war anywhere on the planet.


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The Song Lyrics That Can Change Your Life

The Song Lyrics That Can Change Your Life

I thought I would share this beautiful song with you as the lyrics could not be more relevant to everything this blog is about. The weird thing is, it’s by Massive Attack, who are my favourite music producers and I’ve had this track for years but never took much notice of the lyrics till last year.

I suddenly realised what was being said and fully understood it for the first time – which shows how much more aware you become once you go deeper into this journey of self development. Similar to reading “Think and Grow Rich”, which the first time around, I was not aware enough to fully understand.

I ended up playing it every morning for 6 months and it really helped me during a tough period. It reminded me what I needed to do to stay on the right path towards creating the life I desired. I hope it might do the same for you.

I’ve pasted the lyrics below and analysed them, so you fully understand. Do as they say and there’s no doubt in my mind, you have a blueprint for success.


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Just Think Positive!! (and other annoying sayings)

When feeling anxious or depressed, has anyone ever told you to “Just think positive!!” It’s fucking annoying, right?! Is it the wrong thing to say? Check out my latest video to see what my opinion is, as someone who no longer has anxiety….

A Day in the Life Part 2: How My Thoughts & Actions Have Changed Since I Crushed Anxiety

How My Thoughts Have Changed Since Anxiety

Continuing from part 1, this is an analysis of the second half of my day trip to London, comparing how I think and act as someone without anxiety, to how I was when I had an anxiety disorder.

Train Station

As  we approach the ticket barriers on mass, most passengers are either confused, tentative or follow each other like sheep to one of the barriers. They don’t want to go first. Or they don’t know which barrier to go through so blindly follow someone they think knows better (not realising they are just as clueless!).

Anxious Tim

Baa’s along with them.

New Tim

Ignores the large queue and heads for the small one. Some people are waiting, scared to put their ticket into the machine. I go ahead of them and show how it’s done. I savour the feeling of total control.

You see, I have used those barriers before and my ticket didn’t work. It’s embarrassing! You hold up everyone behind you, the official has to come over and sort you out and it looks as though you are trying to get in without paying. It hardly ever happens though and here’s the thing; even if it does, so fucking what? It wasn’t MY fault. I had a valid ticket. The people behind can wait or use another barrier. They might curse me but I won’t let that ruin my day!

What I really notice in that situation, is just how much stress and anxiety and lack of confidence OTHER people have.

Scared of making a wrong move.

Worried about going first.

When you have anxiety, you tend to think everyone else is confident and doesn’t have your thoughts.


It’s just that most of those people will be anxious only in that moment. They will forget about it afterwards. It won’t ruin their life. Anxious Tim would be plague by that moment for a long time.

I consider myself extremely confident now but I still have many of those negative thoughts. I don’t know if that’s true for people who have never suffered with anxiety.

My guess is that only a tiny minority of people have little to none of these kind of thoughts drifting around. After all, we have around 60,000 thoughts EVERY DAY. Some are bound to be anxious, no matter who we are.



I arrive at the cafe where I’m due to meet 4 new people who already know each other and are good friends. A scenario enough to keep me sat away at home, as Anxious Tim. I’m slightly early but can’t see inside to check who has arrived, so I take a walk around the block. Anxious Tim would do the same. The difference is, New Tim isn’t panicking. I saunter down some residential side streets, excited about the meeting, a tad nervous, I fully admit, but who wouldn’t be?

Anxious Tim

Is full of fear. Not just about the meeting but about the wait. He’s totally preoccupied with what is going on during the walk. That would mean an irrational fear of other people looking at him, wondering why he’s wandering around aimlessly.


New Tim

Laughs at the INSANE notion that ANYONE could possibly know where I was going or why!! Instead, he just studies the houses and the trees and starts to miss London.

A feature of being anxiety-free is that you notice a lot more of the details of your surroundings. When you aren’t preoccupied with worries, focused entirely on what other people are doing or thinking, your mind and vision become clearer. You notice things that would never come into your line of sight before. That includes the beauty of nature.


The Meeting

Anxious Tim

Is in a constant spin-dryer of worries. My aim would be to get away from the meeting having said as little as possible, to have the focus kept away from me but at the same time, say SOMETHING, so I at least don’t seem boring, aloof or miserable. That’s a tough balancing act that inevitably leads to much ruminating after the event.

New Tim

I care about what other people think of me but at the same time, I couldn’t care less!! Sounds contradictory – let me explain! I want to give off a good impression, for people to like me and to get to know the real me. But at the same time, I don’t give a fuck if they dislike me!

I won’t change who I am or pretend to be something I’m not or hold back my opinions, to fit in or make others like me. I don’t go into these situations with an action plan. I just go with the flow – I speak when I feel like it and I make sure I’m heard. I’m not afraid to disagree with something or interject.

Sure, I feel a tad uncomfortable at points, like when the four of them are talking about something I haven’t experienced which they all have. I feel a little out of place because they are so close and I’m the odd one out. I feel a bit of pressure on myself to “perform” and showcase my personality. But I also know it’s hard to do that if you aren’t relaxed.

You could argue that I’m a bit anxious. Yes, I said it – ANXIOUS!! But this is important to understand;

Anxiety isn’t something that you can eliminate entirely. It’s a natural emotion that is NEEDED in life. But it’s the level of anxiety and the amount of time you experience it, which determines whether it is a problem or not.

Anxious Tim

Would feel high levels of  anxiety the entire 2 hour meal, over;

  • how I was eating
  • what the others were thinking about me
  • the quality of my conversation
  • the amount of eye contact I gave

I could go on!

New Tim

Had mild levels at the start which deteriorated as the meal went on. But in all honesty, I was so comfortable with myself as a person, I knew I would come across well and if the others thought otherwise…..well, that was a problem with them, not with me!

Most anxiety disorders stem from a lack of self esteem at some level. So once you eliminate that and love yourself, there really isn’t a great deal to be anxious about.

The Park

After a very productive meeting which left me feeling excited, accepted and uplifted, I had time to kill till my train, so headed to nearby Regent’s Park. I’d never been before and was struck by the beauty of the perfectly manicured lawns and neatly sculptured plant life.

One thing I love about London is that although it’s a teeming hive of millions (which you would assume to be the antithesis of what an anxiety sufferer would want) it has the effect of making you anonymous – which is perfect! No one cares what you do and everyone is ultra-busy anyway.

You can sit in a park slap-bang in central London, by yourself, and never feel lonely or like a billy-no mates, because there are so many others doing the same. That wouldn’t have made a difference to Anxious Tim though!

He still wouldn’t have had the bottle to sit alone and eat in public (what if I drop my sandwich or look like a fool when I eat!) or the nerve to sit on a bench and read without worrying who was watching (he must be a horrible person with no friends if he’s sat alone!).

I even managed to do something I’ve never done before – feed the squirrels! They are incredibly tame in Regent’s Park and will come right up and place a paw on your hand. I’d never seen this before, so wanted to try feeding them some of my banana.

Now I’m  gonna admit something; I chickened out at first. I actually walked out of the park before giving myself a quick talking to and returning. Again, this is showing how I now have control over my thoughts. Instead of worrying about other people watching me, I shut them out, peeled my banana and held out pieces for two squirrels to munch happily on!

It was a beautiful moment, I felt so close to nature but more that that, I was proud of myself. I spent a good hour by myself in that park and yes, at times the old thoughts crept back in such as;

“I’d like to switch benches and go to one that is in the sun but what if people think I’m weird?”


“I want to feed a squirrel but what if the animals run away instead of taking the food and people watching laugh at me?”

But I didn’t let thoughts dictate my actions. I always did what I wanted to do.

The Return Journey

This was arguably my biggest test. First I had to negotiate busy rush-hour tube stations and London roads, then get on a rammed to the brim train home. Buoyed by my successful day (and meeting those cute nut gatherers!) it turned out to be really easy. No one likes being stuck in rush-hour jams but in all honesty, I was absolutely fine.

Anxious Tim

This would have been the nightmare scenario; tube and train full of heaving, sweating bodies, invading my space and able to bore their eyes into my very soul from inches away! The main fear was always being watched and criticised by multiple people. I hated myself and my esteem was on the floor, so it’s no wonder!

New Tim

That has all changed now. I genuinely love myself and accept who I am. That’s the man reason why now, I just calmly listened to music and read my book. There are times when I do wonder what on Earth I used to get so worked up about; this was one such time.

Two hours later, I’m back at home.

Instead of ruminating over the entire day, over the meaning of every word spoken, every scenario played out and every “mistake” I made or thing I avoided, I don’t dwell at all. In fact, I’m proud of myself. I’m getting closer and closer to the person I want to be.



What this comparison has shown is that everyone has anxious thoughts. They don’t entirely go away. But they don’t rule my life any more. Once you learn how to RESPOND positively to those thoughts, rather than REACT negatively and irrationally, you can gain control over them.

Yes, I do occasionally have to do some work to prevent the initial thought growing (such as affirmations or a deliberate change in posture or forcing myself to take an action) but I no longer hide away from people or situations, avoiding the fear. Instead of a day full of anxiety, it’s now just a brief few thoughts which last seconds. And that’s a MASSIVE difference in quality of life. I believe that one day, most of those anxious thoughts that I had today, will disappear too.









A Day in the Life: How My Thoughts Have Changed Since I Crushed Anxiety

A Day in the Life

Today I had to venture into London for a meeting. Rewind 2 years ago to when I still had post traumatic anxiety and this meeting would have been a nightmare – that’s if I had even managed to get out of the house! Of course, it would never have happened anyway, as I had no job, no contacts, no motivation and no reason for a meeting of any sort, other than to get my meds from the doctor!

But I did wonder; how have my thought processes changed since then? This was my first time going back to London since I was assaulted years ago. How would the “new” anxiety-free Tim, think and act when confronted with the hustle and bustle of one of the world’s most crowded cities? I thought it would be interesting to compare my new thought processes with my old ones. The results were startling….

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YouTube Review: Gary Vaynerchuk

YouTube Review: Gary Vaynerchuk

I first came across the guy known online as Gary Vee, early in 2017. As a fan of straight taking, no-nonsense, I was instantly drawn in because I’m here to inform you, NO-ONE does crap-cutting, piercing to the heart of the matter, like this man!

It would be foolish of you to be put off by the big, brash, profanity-laden, motor-mouth persona. Yes, he is all that and more! But away from the stages where he gives speeches to conferences (as in the above video) and countless media interviews, he’s an extraordinarily generous, kind, positive, perceptive man, who relates well to others and is well liked as well as respected.

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Why You Need to Stop Watching the News!

One of the major things I’ve changed in my daily routine this year, is the elimination of my old obsession with watching the news or immersing myself in news stories online. I considered it a vital part of my day, something I needed to do to stay informed – though I’ll be honest and admit it had become an addiction that would take up hours.

I never realised just how much of a negative influence it was having on me. But it doesn’t take much to see just why it can affect so many of us in our overall mindset to life. Here are the headlines I saw immediately as I opened Bing today (and these are just local to UK):

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Book Review: “Conversations With God” by Neale Donald Walsch

Book Review: “Conversations With God” by Neale Donald Walsch


I was initially reluctant to get this book due to the word “god”. The fact I have not written god with a capital G tells you all you need to know about my feelings towards it! I have never believed in god since I became an adult, have been an atheist most of the proceeding time and now………..well, let’s just say books like Conversations With God are making me re-think that! But it doesn’t matter if you are agnostic, atheist or religious, this book is a must-read. But be warned; no matter what your belief, you are about to have it severely challenged!

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Law of Attraction Update Video No. 3

The 3rd in my series where I tell all you lovely folks about the ups and downs of living a life devoted to self development and the law of attraction. This week, I’m attempting to bounce back after my horrendous monetary losses…………and discuss why maybe, just maybe, it happened for a reason!